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The Importance of Relationships to Mental Health
By Brian Tracy
The one thing you have in common with all other human beings is your desire to be happy about yourself and your life.
Aristotle, perhaps the greatest of all the philosophers, concluded that man is a teleological organism. That is, he or she continually strives to achieve goals of some kind. Aristotle’s great contribution to human thought was his conclusion that behind every interim goal that a person strives for, there is yet another goal, and then another, and another, and another, until the individual arrives at the final goal. And the final goal is always happiness.
For example, you want to get a better job. Why? So that you can earn more money. Why? So that you can buy a better car. Why? So that you can be more attractive to members of the opposite sex. Why? So that you will have more and better dates with more interesting and enjoyable people. Why? So that you will get greater pleasure out of your social activities. Why? So that eventually you will find someone who loves you and whom you love in return. Why? And the final answer is always because you feel that that is what will make you the most happy.
I really believe that your primary aim in life is to achieve your own happiness. If you do not set your own happiness as the organizing principle for your decisions and your behaviors, no one else will do it for you. No one cares about your happiness as much as you do. Anyone who feels that they will be unhappy in order to make someone else happy, is only fooling themselves. You can’t give away something that you don’t have. You can’t make someone else happy unless you are happy yourself. If you really love and care for the people around you, you will become a thoroughly happy individual. That is the best and kindest thing that you can do for others.
True, genuine, deep-down happiness and inner peace is the hallmark of mental health. To the degree to which you can achieve your own peace and happiness, you are a truly healthy, fully-functioning, fully-integrated, self-actualizing human being. If you can accomplish everything else in the world, but you cannot achieve your own happiness, to that degree you are a failure.
And now we come to the central theme of this message. Fully 85% of your happiness will be determined by your relationships with other people. It is how well you get along with others, and how well they get along with you, that will determine your level of happiness and satisfaction in life more than any other single factor.
Relationships are not peripheral to a successful life. They are central. If you accomplish all your material goals but you do not attend carefully to your relationships, you will end up empty, alone and miserable. But if you have wonderful relationships with people who care about you, and whom you care about, then no matter what happens in the outside world, you will still be happy.
You are a social animal. You were born to be with other people. Your entire identity, your self-image, your self-esteem, your self-respect, and everything about you are determined by the reactions of other people to you from earliest childhood. How you think and feel about yourself on an hour to hour, minute to minute basis is largely determined by how other people respond to you as you move through your personal and business life.
One of the smartest and most productive things that you can do is to become a relationship expert. There is no set of skills that will do more to assure you of great success, achievement and satisfaction in life than to be extremely competent at getting along with other people.
Copyright Brian Tracy. Reprinted with Permission.
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Build Equity in Your Happiness Account
by Marci Shimoff, author Happy for No Reason
How can I be happy when my home is losing its value, my 401k is going down, and the price of everything else is going up?
That’s a question I hear a lot lately. It seems that as the economy becomes more depressed, so do we.
So what can you do about it? How can you build your happiness bank account amidst tough economic times?
Top happiness researcher Robert Biswas-Diener shared some new insights with me during a recent conversation. While writing Happy for No Reason, I often called upon Robert for his expertise. Known as the “Indiana Jones of positive psychology,” his research has taken him to the far corners of the earth — from the Masai in Africa to seal hunters in Greenland to the poor in Calcutta.
Robert and his father, Ed Diener, one of the preeminent scholars in the field of positive psychology, maintain in their wonderful new book, Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth, that our net worth is comprised of much more than our bank accounts. It includes our psychological wealth, our spiritual connection, our health, and the quality of our social networks.
One surprising finding of Robert’s research is that the homeless in Calcutta are happier than the homeless in America, simply because they have stronger networks of social relationships, which help buffer them against the dire effects of poverty. We get more happiness dividends from our relationships than we do from our dollars.
While the value of the dollar may be in flux, the value of your personal relationships and spiritual connection can always gain equity — if you take the time to nurture them. Robert says the way you spend your discretionary money — and time — affects your happiness level.
Here are two things you can do to add equity to your happiness account:
1. Whenever possible, choose experience over material things. Investing $100 to take Tango lessons with your partner will provide more bang for your buck than spending that same money on a new pair of shoes.
2. Spend your money on social activities rather than solitary ones. If you’re going to buy a cup of coffee at Starbucks or splurge for a pedicure, do so with a friend rather than by yourself. Researchers were surprised to find that even introverts are happier when they’re in social situations.
My parents thankfully understood the importance of these concepts. For instance, they have taken our entire family (three generations) on annual vacations together for the last 20 years. I have memories galore of these fantastic holidays — from watching my parents (in their 80s) play a hilarious game of ping-pong for the first time in 50 years to all of us careening through the jungle on zip lines.
Like the TV commercial says, experiences like these are “priceless”…and they add immeasurable equity to your happiness account.
Learn more about Marci’s Book: Happy for No Reason
About the Author:
Marci Shimoff is a celebrated transformational leader and #1 New York Times best-selling author. To learn more of her powerful techniques for establishing deep and authentic happiness and well-being, visit http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/
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